Entering my 40s has brought about a fierce transformation. I’ve shed the layers of societal expectations and unapologetically embraced my true self. No longer do I feel the need to keep my mouth shut, to apologize for my boldness, or to minimize my worth. This decade of my life is dedicated to being authentically me, with no room for regret.

Setting Boundaries and Saying No

In the past, I often found myself agreeing to things out of a sense of obligation or fear of disappointing others. But now, I recognize the power in setting boundaries. Saying no when I don’t want to do something is liberating. It’s a way of protecting my time, my energy, and my peace. I don’t feel guilty for putting myself first because I understand that self-care is not selfish—it’s essential.

Embracing My Right to Be Petty

Let’s be clear: I am not here to be a doormat. If being petty is what it takes to demand respect and stand my ground, so be it. I’m no longer willing to tolerate disrespect or disregard. My actions might seem rude to some, but to me, they are necessary defenses. I am bold, I am loud, and I am bossy. These traits are not flaws but strengths that allow me to navigate the world confidently and assertively.

Championing Autonomy Over My Body

A woman’s body belongs to herself, not to the old men in government who think they have a say in our choices. My body, my rules. This fundamental belief guides my life, and I will continue to advocate for women’s autonomy. We have the right to make decisions about our own bodies without external interference.

Love is Love

Love knows no boundaries. I firmly believe that love is love, period. If it involves two consenting adults, it’s none of my business. This principle extends to everyone, including the LGBTQ+ community. Everyone deserves the freedom to love whom they love and to be comfortable in their own skin. Authenticity should be celebrated, not judged.

Fiercely Loyal and Protective

Despite my fierce exterior, I am incredibly loyal to those I love. My family and friends are my top priority. Their peace and well-being matter deeply to me. I hope for everyone to achieve their dreams and live fulfilled lives. However, I also believe that people should get what they deserve—whether that’s the fruits of their good deeds or the consequences of their actions.

Take Me As I Am—or Don’t

For those who find me difficult, I have one simple piece of advice: stop finding me. This is me, unfiltered and unapologetic. If you can’t handle my strength and honesty, you can take several seats or simply leave. My peace and the peace of my loved ones are paramount. I refuse to compromise on this.

Moving Forward

In my 40s, I am more certain of myself than ever before. I will continue to speak my mind, set boundaries, and live my truth. This journey is about prioritizing my well-being and staying true to who I am. If you’re along for the ride, welcome. If not, there’s the door.

To those navigating a similar path, I say this: embrace your voice, set your boundaries, and never apologize for being authentically you. Life is too short to be anything but unapologetically yourself.